Yea before I go into what the title of this blog is about I wanted to say I changed jobs. It is less stressful & I'm happy with it. so YAY!!!!!!!!!! Ok here is what happened last night & made me quite upset & cry. I told someone who I considered a friend that I was going to get a second job. Before I even had a chance to explain why, he goes & says something rude. He said; "sounds like fun, now you won't have time to connect with folks, can just hide behind work instead". Needless to say, that pissed me off royally & I just said cuz I was upset that my life is too complicated to connect w/ people anyways. Then he said "your life isnt complicated" I said " you do not even know me to say my life isn't complicated". He replied with "I know enough to know letting u hide forever behind your excuses is the worst thing I could do." I let him know its not about him & I was upset & just wanted to talk to my best friend at that moment. He said "That's fine. your world is as big as u let it be." What made me mad is he assumed I am trying to "hide" by working so much. Well that is untrue, I wanted to have a second job so I can take whatever $ I earn & put it into savings. I want to buy a car & eventually move into a studio apt. I just do not get why me wanting to better my life is such a bad thing? Also, I was having a few tough days & the only person I could really talk to was my best friend, what the heck is wrong with that? I am so sick of people who think they know it all & what they think is best for me. Newsflash, I am a grown woman thank u very much & I know what I am doing. Other than that isue right there, everything is going good for me. But I do not think I will be talking to that person again unless I decide to defend myself but I dunno if its even worth it. Ah well.

firstly, i would like to say: if he says stuff like that and misunderstands so much, don't take it to heart, he's probs just jealous you got another job and he's in desperate need of one ;)

as long as you know what your job is for, nothing else matters, and he's obviously not that good a friend if he doesnt even know you that much, so what does it matter what he thinks? =] although if he's a good/decent friend of yours, i'm sure he'll come round and realise he was being a jerk and apologise ^_^

secondly: Welcome to NuTang!!! =DDD hope you enjoy it here! =D

L8r,

—×Kuri×—
» Kuri on 2006-08-31 05:37:32

i agree with kuri on your 'friend'. he's not much of one to talk and think of you that way. He doesn't deserve your tears.

you have a good reason for getting a second job and i commend you for making the effort. you don't need to explain yourself to him.

i hate that kind of people, too. i had an experience with one. she was an old friend who i hadn't seen for a while and she flipped out on me. it happened twice in one conversation. the first time, i overcame my tears, the second, i didn't. the moment she saw them, she scrunched up her face and went "don't do that! don't you dare try that!". i hadn't seen her for years and she was acting like i was faking or soimething.

anyway, i just wanted you to know i understood, is all. ^-^ welcome to nuTang!
» Silver-dot- on 2006-08-31 05:54:12

...

*hug*

all better.

cheers,
sank
» thaitanic on 2006-08-31 06:45:42

*huggies*
Hey, its no point getting uptight on all these aite? if thats the wway he thinks just let him be. What people think you cant control, so just listen but do not get afffected by it. OK? cheer up girl.

Welcome to Nutang! Keep me updated on your New job, aite? ciao!
» siti84 on 2006-08-31 08:15:40

Welcome to NuTang! I hope you enjoy the community here. We all look forward to your upcoming posts. :)

Job changes that are beneficial to you are always a great thing! I'm glad you made the switch.
» little-b on 2006-08-31 11:07:17

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